You’re A Co-Creator Not The Sole Creator!

Spiritual

May 26

Yes, we know how much we preach about how your thoughts shape your reality, but there’s more to the story - Read below and find out!

The Internal Philosophy states that your internal state, beliefs, and assumptions towards yourself, others, and the world will determine the life you will live. This is absolutely true. How you view yourself and your assumptions about the world are how you move throughout life, and with this becomes an empowering philosophy to believe in. Meaning that if you want something to be true for you, you can rewire your brain about how to get it, but here’s a little caveat.

While yes, you are the creator of your reality, you are not the ONLY creator of your reality. In today’s guide, you will understand how there’s something bigger at play that helps you along the journey to living the life you want and how you can work with this force to live a life that truthfully serves and fulfills you!

IN TODAY’S GUIDE YOU’LL LEARN:

Why you’re a co-creator, not a sole creator
How to not get caught up in the OCD trap of “perfect thoughts”
Learn to validate yourself and emotions towards manifesting your dream life + more!

It’s Not All Your Fault. Healing Isn’t About Being Perfect

When you're on a healing journey, especially one in self-awareness and spiritual growth, it's easy to start believing that everything in your life, the good and the bad, is because of you. That every thought you think, every belief you hold, and every emotion you feel is somehow directly shaping your reality. And while there’s truth to the idea that your mindset plays a powerful role in your life, it’s also important to say this clearly: You are not responsible for every hard thing that happens to you.

Let’s be real about this and see the grounded approach.

The Trap of “It’s All Me”

The self-help and spiritual world often teaches that "your thoughts create your reality." And yes, the way you think, speak, and act does shape your life in powerful ways. But this teaching, when taken too literally, can become toxic. It can make you believe that every setback, every delay, every painful experience is your fault, as if a single bad thought or moment of doubt ruins everything you’ve been working on.

It could sound like this in your head:

“I thought something negative — now I’ve blocked my manifestation.”

“I cried today. That means I’m not aligned.”

“I’m still suffering, so I must be doing all this wrong.”

Ugh, we’re even exhausted by typing this. We couldn’t imagine holding all this mental fatigue, which this kind of thinking leads to. Thinking this way leads to anxiety, obsessive overthinking, and a fear of just being real.

When you’re working hard on healing, doing shadow work, journaling, affirming, meditating, it can be crushing when your outer world doesn’t reflect the peace you’re trying so hard to build internally. And because the spiritual and self-help communities often preach that you create your reality, it’s safe to assume that every bad moment, every setback, is somehow your fault. You could then start obsessively monitoring every single thought you have. You become scared to feel sad, scared to be angry, scared to think anything that isn’t your highest self coming through. You treat your mind like a war zone, every “bad” thought is a landmine that will blow up your progress, and let’s be real: that is not healing. That’s anxiety, perfectionism, and shame masquerading as spirituality. And it’s keeping you stuck.

You Are Not a Manifesting Thinking Machine

You are not your thoughts. Just an observer of them. And you are not a bad person for having negative thoughts. No one, no matter how “evolved,” has perfect thoughts all the time.

You are not a manifesting thinking machine where every thought you have immediately shows out in your outer world. What you are is human. You will have doubts. You will have dark days. You will feel angry, scared, insecure, and yes, sometimes you’ll even have very low thoughts. That does not mean you’re failing. That does not mean your entire journey is reset. That does not mean you’ve ruined everything.

The thoughts that shape your life aren’t the fleeting ones that pop up in moments of fear or frustration. It’s the ones you consistently return to throughout a long period, the beliefs you choose to engage with, the inner dialogue you nurture over time. That’s what builds momentum.

Not everything that happens in your life is because you "thought it into existence." There are external forces, past traumas, generational patterns, and plain old life circumstances that are NOT your fault. We don’t always know why hard things happen. But we do know it’s unrealistic and extremely harmful to think that you’re to blame for all of it.

I’m Doing the Inner Work, But Not Seeing The Outer Results

Let us speak plain: sometimes, life is hard even while you're doing everything "right." You can meditate, journal, visualize, speak kindly to yourself all you want, and still get hit with disappointments, grief, or pain. That’s not because you're manifesting it. That’s not because you’re not doing enough inner work. That’s not because the Universe is punishing you. Sometimes, pain is part of the process. Sometimes, things have to fall apart before they come together. Sometimes, you’re in this void phase where it feels like nothing is changing, but underground, something is shifting, something you can’t yet see. And yes, sometimes the things you want aren’t coming because they’re not what’s right for you.

Learn To Co-Create, Not Sole-Create

Whatever you believe in - God, Source, the Universe, or just the intelligence of life, trust that there’s something bigger than you that sees your life from a bird’s-eye view. It sees the whole picture. It knows what’s around the corner. You don’t. So yes, you may want something so badly, but not receive it. Not because you’re unworthy or misaligned, but because it’s not what you actually need. Ouch, it hurts, but it’s true. Say you really want that dream job of yours in NYC, and you’re doing all the inner work to be aligned with that opportunity, but still don’t get it.

This doesn’t mean you couldn’t handle that reality of you having that job in NYC; it could just mean that it might not be the right opportunity for you. And the thing is, we as humans don’t know, might not ever know the reason. But the thing to know is that what opportunities don’t come through is not because you can’t handle them, but maybe because they might not be what you really want.

We can only see from our limited human perspective. But life, or the Universe, sees it all. Sometimes, it doesn’t give you what you want because it’s protecting you, redirecting you, or preparing you for something far more fulfilling. You might think you want this person, that job, this dream, but what if something better, something more aligned, is waiting for you? Something you’d never have seen if things went your way?

Detach. Detach. Detachhhh.

This is where surrender comes in. Detachment doesn’t mean you stop caring or stop dreaming. It means you release the need to always control the outcome. You stop making your happiness conditional on whether you get what you want, when you get it, or how it happens. But instead, you keep showing up. You keep doing the internal work. You visualize, ask, take action, and then you let go. You trust that your part is enough. And this trust is hard to practice, especially if you love control and certainty. The rest is out of your hands. The outcome of your efforts is not in your control. Read that again. Read it as many times as you need.

There’s No Good In Self-blame

One of the most damaging things you can do in your healing process is to compare your journey to someone else’s. Some people seem to manifest their desires in weeks. Others take years. Some have more support, privilege, or opportunities. Others are healing trauma, breaking cycles, and starting from scratch. There is no one-size-fits-all timeline. And the pressure to be somewhere you’re not yet only creates shame and self-hatred, which slows your healing down even more.

You are exactly where you need to be. Not because you’re stuck, but because you’re learning something right now that you need for the next chapter of your life. Trust your pace. It’s sacred. Everyone is different, and it’s silly to assume that you, with your background, would see the same results as someone who has more support, less generational trauma, and more resources than you to have the same manifestation result timeline.

Validating Your “Bad” Emotions Might Serve You More Than You Realize

Another lie spirituality can spread is that everything should be light, love, and gratitude all the time. That’s just not real. And here at Internal, we pride ourselves on keeping it real. Not to discourage you, but to be honest with you, so when you do encounter this journey, you know it's a part of the process. Real healing is messy. Some days you’ll feel grateful. Other days, you’ll feel rage. You’ll cry, scream, question everything, and maybe even curse out God. Please know that it’s okay. Needed even. You are allowed to feel everything. You need to feel everything. Because emotions are meant to move through you, not be suppressed in the name of “positivity.” Let yourself break down. Let yourself question. Feel it all. Just don’t hurt yourself or others in the process. Emotions aren’t bad, it’s what you do with them that might be.

Crying doesn’t mean you’re failing. Yelling doesn’t mean you’ve lost your alignment. You’re human. You’re supposed to feel. Actually, when you cry and scream, you're validating that inner voice that what you’re going through is hard and unfair, by doing this, you allow that voice to be heard and validated. That inner voice is more powerful than you realize and could be that very thing keeping you stuck in the same cycle you’re trying to break out of.

How to Quiet the OCD Thought Spiral

If you’ve found yourself obsessing over your thoughts, panicking over every negative emotion, or anxious belief, know this: You don’t need to micromanage your mind. You can notice a thought without believing it. You can let it pass without attaching meaning to it.

Here’s a simple way to shift this:

Notice the Thought: “Wow, I’m thinking that nothing will work out.”
Name It: “That’s a fear-based thought. Not a fact.”
Redirect Gently: “I don’t need to believe that. I choose to focus on what I do want, even if it’s hard today.”

You don’t have to fight the thought. Just don’t feed it. Let it float by like a cloud in the sky. No shame. No panic.

It’s Okay to Feel “Grey” (Not Black or White)

Life isn’t just good or bad. You’re not either your highest self or your lowest self. You’re complex. You’re in between. You’re “grey” most days, somewhere in the middle, and that’s okay. Let go of the idea that your energy has to be perfect. No one can maintain joy 24/7, especially in the real world that throws real challenges your way. Your job is to honor your truth in the moment. That means being real about how you feel.

Trust the Process (Even When It Feels Unfair)

So yes, keep dreaming. Keep asking for what you want. Keep showing up. But also know:

What you want might not be what you need
What’s for you won’t miss you
You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy
Your feelings are sacred, not shameful
Just doing the inner work is enough
The timing is not up to you

Something much greater is working on your behalf. It sees you. It knows your journey and your experiences. It hears your cries and frustration, and hope. It’s not asking you to be perfect. It’s just asking you to keep going, but also to be real. It’s hard, turning your life around and doing all the work. That’s why a lot of people give up or don’t even start. Because you have to sit with yourself and face your past, and this is hard to do. But don’t give up. Meet it halfway. Show up, be raw and real. And trust that life is leading you, not always where you want to go, but exactly where you need to be.

You deserve peace. You deserve fulfillment. You deserve the best. And trust that it’s coming, not because you’ve mastered your mind perfectly, but because you’ve chosen to walk this path authentically, even when it’s hard. When it’s coming is completely out of your hands, but don’t ever give up. A lot is waiting for you on the other side, more than you can realize if you just keep going.

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